PICTURED: The assistant Melissa Nelson fired by dentist because she was 'irresistably attractive' and 'threat to his marriage'

Fired: Melissa Nelson was so attractive, Iowa dentist James Knight fired her out of fear she'd make him want to stray from his marriage

An Iowa dentist acted legally in firing a long-time assistant because he - and his wife - viewed the married mother as a threat to their marriage, the all-male Iowa Supreme Court ruled Friday.

The court ruled 7-0 bosses can sack employees they see as an 'irresistible attraction,' even if they have not engaged in flirtatious behavior or otherwise done anything wrong.

Appearing on CNN Friday night, assistant Melissa Nelson said the decision was deeply unfair.


Hello ladies: Despite Nelson being 21 years younger than him, married, and 'not interested in a relationship,' Knight believed it would be too hard not to start an affair with her

'I don't think this is fair,' she said from her Iowa home by phone. 'I don't think this is right.'

Such firings may be unfair, but they are not unlawful discrimination under the Iowa Civil Rights Act because they are motivated by feelings and emotions, and not gender, Justice Edward Mansfield wrote.

An attorney for Fort Dodge dentist James Knight said the decision, the first of its kind in Iowa, is a victory for family values because Knight fired Nelson in the interest of saving his marriage, not because she was a woman.

But Nelson's attorney said Iowa's all-male high court, one of only a handful in the nation, failed to recognize the discrimination women see routinely in the workplace.

Nelson insisted she was never interested in Knight romantically, regardless of his own feelings.

'Absolutely not,' she said. 'I'm happily married.'

Since Knight fired her she has worked as a waitress six nights a week.

While her former boss claimed her clothes were so tight he couldn't look at her without being aroused, Nelson said the only outfit she wore to work was standard scrubs worn by many nurses and assistants in dental offices.

Asked if she saw herself as irresistibly attractive, Nelson laughed at the question.

'I'm just an ordinary girl,' she said. 'Just an ordinary mom.'

Also appearing via call-in, her attorney, Paige Fiedler, said it was unlikely they would seek an appeal because of the way the case was filed as only interpreting state law.

'These judges sent a message to Iowa women that they don't think men can be held responsible for their sexual desires and that Iowa women are the ones who have to monitor and control their bosses' sexual desires,' Fielder said.  'If they get out of hand, then the women can be legally fired for it.'

Nelson, 32, worked for Knight for 10 years, and he considered her a stellar worker. But in the final months of her employment, he complained that her tight clothing was distracting, once telling her that if his pants were bulging that was a sign her clothes were too revealing, according to the opinion.

He also once allegedly remarked about her infrequent sex life by saying, 'that's like having a Lamborghini in the garage and never driving it.'

Knight and Nelson — both married with children — started exchanging text messages, mostly about personal matters, such as their families. Knight's wife, who also worked in the dental office, found out about the messages and demanded Nelson be fired. The Knights consulted with their pastor, who agreed that terminating Nelson was appropriate.

Knight fired Nelson and gave her one month's severance. He later told Nelson's husband he worried he was getting too personally attached and feared he would eventually try to start an affair with her.


Family man: Knight's wife, who also works in the dental office, demanded Nelson be fired when she discovered text messages


Ordinary mom: Nelson has been working as a waitress since she lost her dental job and is unsure of her future career path

Nelson was stunned because she viewed the 53-year-old Knight as a father figure and had never been interested in starting a relationship, Fiedler said.

Nelson filed a lawsuit alleging gender discrimination, arguing she would not have been terminated if she was male. She did not allege sexual harassment because Knight's conduct may not have risen to that level and didn't particularly offend her, Fiedler said.

Knight argued Nelson was fired not because of her gender, but because her continued employment threatened his marriage. A district judge agreed, dismissing the case before trial, and the high court upheld that ruling.

Mansfield noted that Knight had an all-female workforce and Nelson was replaced by a woman.

He said the decision was in line with state and federal court rulings that found workers can be fired for relationships that cause jealousy and tension within a business owner's family. One such case from the 8th Circuit Court of Appeals upheld a business owner's firing of a valued employee who was seen by his wife as a threat to their marriage. In that case, the fired employee had engaged in flirtatious conduct.

Jurisprudence: Justice Edward Mansfield penned the Iowa Supreme Court's decision on Knight's dismissal of Melissa Nelson

Jurisprudence: Justice Edward Mansfield penned the Iowa Supreme Court's decision on Knight's dismissal of Melissa Nelson

Mansfield said allowing Nelson's lawsuit would stretch the definition of discrimination to allow anyone fired over a relationship to file a claim arguing they would not have been fired but for their gender.

Knight's attorney, Stuart Cochrane, said the court got it right. The decision clarified that bosses can make decisions showing favoritism to a family member without committing discrimination; in this case, by allowing Knight to honor his wife's wishes to fire Nelson, he said.

Knight is a very religious and moral individual, and he sincerely believed that firing Nelson would be best for all parties, he said.

'While there was really no fault on the part of Mrs. Nelson, it was just as clear the decision to terminate her was not related to the fact that she was a woman,' he said. 'The motives behind Dr. Knight terminating Mrs. Nelson were quite clear: He did so to preserve his marriage.

'I don't view this as a decision that was either pro-women or opposed to women rights at all. In my view, this was a decision that followed the appropriate case law.'

By Lena Sullivan 12/22/2012 19:22:00

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01/02/2013 16:55:09
dumbest thing i ever heard of to bad the guy can't keep his things in order.
TxnByBrth 07/12/2013 11:22:25
It's not so much he can't keep his things in order, but that his wife believed he couldn't keep them in order. I'm guessing he said Nelson's name once to often while in the throws of making it with his wife. I'm wondering if Nelson doesn't have a case against Knight's wife...just wondering.
05/08/2013 07:08:48
Free call to roll out of bed and go to work in big comfy clothes, and no makeup, instead of spending 45 minutes getting dolled up. She should have taken that deal.
Brett 06/29/2013 08:32:59
She's not even hot!! Look at others pics of her. Better than his wife for sure but def not what the media is painting this woman out to be! At all!
bill 07/12/2013 11:37:45
This dentist is from Fort Dodge. Mark Cady, the Chief Justice of the Iowa Supreme Court is also from Fort Dodge. Fort Dodge is a town of about 25 thousand people. This looks like the "Good old boy" network in full effect to me..
Whatever 07/12/2013 11:47:34
This may be a stupid question, but why would you fight to work for an old creep like this?
Bill 07/12/2013 11:51:30
She'd worked there for 10 years. You aren't going to find an entry level position that is going to pay you at that level. On top of that, there are like 3 dentists in Fort Dodge, She would probably have to relocate.
jerry 07/12/2013 12:33:05
America is getting dumber and dumber.
peter 07/12/2013 14:18:19
GREAT, Just great, now all the women in my office are pissed at me because I did not fire them for being too pretty. What is a white male to do?
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Chris 07/12/2013 14:29:50
Pro 27:15 A continual dropping in a very rainy day And a contentious woman are alike:
Pro 27:16 He that would restrain her restraineth the wind; And his right hand encountereth oil.
Drip, drip drip....it wears a man out...
DC 07/15/2013 12:39:03
Look at the way these people look and dress, they look inbred. There must be very slim pickings in Iowa. The wife is nothing to look at (especially in that green sweater) but the fired girl is at best a 3-4 on a 10 scale. Maybe her body is good but that's about it. Wow, hope I never have to go to Fort Dodge Iowa, must be the fugly capital of America.
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